There has been a lot of talk recently about the “incels” – guys who don’t get any sex and identify with this as a group. How horrible they are, how misogynistic etc. And most importantly, how if they just managed to shower and not be so cynical and misogynistic, they would get laid. There seems to be no end to the hate of the “loser guys”. No one has any empathy for a guy who can’t get laid.
But I can’t stop thinking of the standard response to “Nice Guys<tm>” – guys who argue that they are nice and thoughtful and respectful, but don’t get any and the girls always goes with the “bad guy” instead. The response that sex is not something you deserve for being nice.
But you can’t have this both ways – if sex is not something you deserve for being nice, clean and not misogynistic, then you can’t blame people not getting sex on not doing/being those things! There are going to be people who are entirely nice, likable persons, who don’t get any. For being to awkward, or too ugly, or to short, or having bad luck. And therefore, they do deserve empathy and sympathy. Because that’s something you can deserve for being a nice person.
If you can’t have empathy and sympathy with people who don’t get sex, then you are the horrible person. Then you don’t deserve to have sex either. For while you can’t qualify for sex by being nice, you can most definitely disqualify for it by being an idiot.
This dark undercurrent of disliked wierdos has been brewing for quite a while, and no one seems to care to bring it out into the light and fix it with the empathy it needs. There’s a red thread going all the way from the mails that bullied kids sent Slashdot after the Columbine school schooting, to today’s “black pilled” incels.